THE LONG FLIGHT OF LIVING

In the long flight of living, it has been a tussle , a whole long transformation of ruffling feathers , plucking old ones, growing the new ,trying to still maintain the speed and focus of flying with all energy and magnitude and in this journey, many a times wounded get the   wings, bruised are ends , where hardly one gets time to repair, mend or let the wounds dry.

The journey goes on without stopping, with every bend bringing more challenges and showing more impermanence of life.

 

Unachievable goals, difficult roads, storms , or hovering clouds, thorns pushing out of every circumstances often shred the skin in ways where one tries to protect the family keeping  them intact.

 
Hardly all these such efforts are realized , the fact is the zeal to move forward, the confidence of fighting inspite of not being acknowledged, the selfless support and patience of 24 hours extending to 7 days and 12 months a year continuously exhausts the energy of self.
There are moments when the flight seems the last , the faraway sky seems to embrace our pains and struggles, yet the closed ones near us never realize or notice.
The long exhausting journey wishes moments of understanding, some moments of realization which remain unnoticed and unheeded.
The long laps of flight turn the wings weak, which cannot hold the rough weathers now, due to continous exposure to rough weathers and because never did they been cleaned, covered, given rest .
A life too depletes such with negligence when all paths suddenly turn down and forget to let the soul breathe.

 

 

It is a transformation to break free from all shackles, from all chains that have pulled the wings in different directions, letting the bird to forget it’s own flight and instead follow the journey of survival.

It is time ,to mend ways, to realize, to know, to understand, to see through, to accept  this struggle .

As an eagle too can live upto 70 years and for that it has to go through the painful process of transformation after 40 years.
Either one fights self, wins , overcomes and then survives as a fighter and warrior of life or else succumbs to surroundings and gets eroded in the flood of life .

This isn’t the fear of physical pain , it is the transformation that  creates turbulence within, either leading to a rebirth of self or leading to the  usual  end .

Give me back, my love!

Last summer it hadn’t been that difficult, even though the weather cycle has shifted and now seasons no longer arrive on time. Obviously seasons hardly proclaim their arrival,it’s the nature which speaks on the behalf of its beloved.

The frost covered ivy leaves and the white sheet of luminous pearls on vast expanse announces the winter days. Even though the chilled breeze cuts through the veins , its tingling sensation brings pleasure.

Aman never noticed how seasons change . Oh! but neither he noticed any change in Ria.

So what? Thought she! She couldn’t possibly make all the efforts and take the stress of not being closer to him. She got attention from the rest of the world, so did she really cared for this?

Somewhere inside,she did. It wasn’t that easy to let life slip off so easily from her hands.Yet she couldn’t force or change anything. “What was wrong in me”? often Ria thought.Even though they were classmates and sat next to each other, he seldom glanced on her. They hardly spoke to one another and when in a group, he usually avoided talking to her.

This irritated Ria more and she tried to find out the real reason behind the coldness.

That evening was a memorable one when graduation day neared and juniors had planned for a farewell party. Winter had arrived, unnoticed.

It was snowy all around and the valley was lit with intermittent fireplaces at many places. The fir trees had on their tips the whiteness of love.

Yet love was missing in the hearts and was frozen.

In a white satin dress which kissed her toes ,Ria had let her hair loose.The tresses followed her till her waist and swayed gently as she moved. The red rose tucked in her hair near the ears was smiling vibrantly at every onlooker. As she entered the hall where the party was at its peak, eyes followed her everywhere,but her eyes searched for someone else.

She couldn’t see Aman anywhere and got desperate. For hours she waited ,yet he was nowhere to be seen. Her heart sank and she at last realized, he had never loved her. It was her misunderstanding or her premature thoughts which made her feel that someday he would confess.

Last year when the college students went for trekking camp, things were different. Aman was still aloof even though around,but she had discovered his stolen glances on her. Out of any pretext, he had tried to touch her several times and her eyes blushed. That fateful night while the camp was asleep, in the mid of night, she heard a rustle nearby. Apprehending it to be an animal, she was going to scream when a palm slid onto her mouth.She gasped.

 

“ Shh. Do not speak” , signaled the shadow.

She could feel his warm fingers over her neck and around her lips. It was a moment that melted her for ages.

“What is it?” the trainer shouted from outside.

“Who’s there?”

“Nothing Sir”, replied Ria.She was confused over the appearance of a stranger in her tent at this hour of night,but something resisted her to speak about it in front of everyone.

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Today it was the last day of college and she would be leaving this place forever,how could Aman not be here? Her sixth sense had deceived her. Aman had never loved her.

She left the celebration hall quickly and started walking through the thick layer of snow. Her feet were getting numb and the cold had frozen her fingers. Her eyes cried in sadness over the indifference and tears rolled down.

Within few minutes , she became unconscious and fell down.

Hours later , when she opened her eyes, Ria was confused to find herself in a new place. Her head was still reeling and she was wrapped inside a thick fur blanket. The wooden walls were strangers and the only lamp hung on the corner of the room was lighting the cosy place.

“Where am I?”

Suddenly she saw a silhouette coming near. In awe, she became speechless.

The silhouette sat near her and directed her hair-locks from her face behind her ears.The caress of the touch was warm and the same. She had known this touch very vividly. Her heart pounded faster as the shadow bent and pressed on her lips.For a moment , he withdrew, but Ria realized.

It was love which had been relived by the touch. She whispered in his ears, “#Bring back the touch.Give me back my love”.

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Nations prosper ,when women have power !

She who makes your family, she who rears you since childhood has every right to get connected to the strings of learning.When every household thinks alike as such and tries to introduce the basics of learning internet to the women of the house, knowledge shall spread and countries will prosper.
Barring her the freedom of choice and her right to learn , we can see many nations fallen to their fallacies in the grits of poverty and misery.

Read my article about this on Worldpulse: Nations prosper when women have power

 

FOCUS

When certain things in life don’t go well or according to what we had planned,there is a sense of dissatisfaction and discontentment.

Very often we aspire of many dreams and goals which are achievable ,but not in a step ,instead they require lot of patience and hard work. This delay sometimes makes us unhappy or we lose the interest in between ,when the path seems long enough and the destination far away.We forget then that the destination or the goal has its own place,we need to travel till the point and realize our dream.

It is the journey that is more hard to undertake and harder is to remain firm on it till the last.

The determination and the focus shall testify the patience and make us reach our destination.

 

WHO IS THE FACE OF YOUR COMPANY?

PHOTCREDIT:linked2leadership.com

 

What and who represents your company? What is the distinct feature that makes your organization stand at a different level  higher than the rest?

Of course,your people,your staff and the management group that handles the  pattern,behavior,exposure,growth and  planning of your concern are the ones representing your firm.

The three level system consisting of  the lower management,the middle management and the senior management form the base of any company to run in a successful way.  It depends on the efficiency of the person in these levels and  also on the co-ordination of the employees among themselves.

An organization having people of great caliber and potentials can be at a loss if the people in that talk do not possess the quality of working together as a team and always are head on with every other person for any issue arising .

“A company hiring certain hard-core professionals out of a belief that  masters of  certain specialized areas will provide their company with  good solutions or find a way to  market their products globally or can enhance the output of their  production  is nevertheless like having a  dream “.

Every individual besides being a professional  is a person possessing  his own traits and behavioral pattern.This pattern should be compatible with the working methods of the system or should be  advantageous  to the company.If there has to be a change in the prevailing  format other than the one running in the  company, it will have certain frictions arising within the core,but not a collapse of the infrastructure.

Many organizations suddenly replace  their hired top  personnel out of a notion to accommodate the best talents available in the industry and still go around with losses in spite of having the best people with them.

“A degree of any specialized field will make one well versed with the nomenclature and thorough with the ideal ways of working that is explained in the books,but wont teach a person ,how to deal in certain situations of crisis which are unique and exceptional in every case irrespective of any country. The work experience ,the thought process , overall thinking and managing ability of the person shall endear  to the perfect solution.”

Remember what we had learnt in school is the basic knowledge,life taught us the real ways of living. So the ones who used to sit in the last benches of the school are top businessmen of our times, for they know the real art of running a company and have not stuck to any predefined written methods. They may hire excellent people to represent their company on certain levels and to know  the  views and suggestions of the so-called intellectuals.But remember the wisest of all always listens to the people around him , but  he does what his heart and mind proclaims.

For an organization to run smoothly  with success by achieving the profits and earning a repute , it is essential to have a combination of people  merging together and  blending the top brains with the wise heads and the excellent performers.

One who  cares  for the organization as much as he does for his career,the individual having a real connection for the company for which he is  working and who has  the sense of thinking alive in him to bring about the best from his team and their efforts is the one who can take the organization to a different strata.

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What is needed is the sense of belonging , intelligence, dynamism in thoughts and behavior,ability to take and face risks,courage to accept challenges and the endurance to complete them along with a nature of a good human being,which when  summed can be the face of the company!

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“DECORUM IN PRESENCE OF YOUR SENIORS “- SOFT SKILLS

Decorum at work is often a set of guidelines that is written and followed. There are still few codes of conduct which aren’t written anywhere nor do they find any mention in the book of organizational behaviour.

Remember the day when your boss was supposed to visit your working premises ,or your work area, did anybody tell you about the disposition you should follow and the etiquette you should have?

Besides the people around who have the habit of smudging their seniors with all the negative thoughts, there is no one who can guide you to know what exactly should be your behavior?

If you are supposed to spend more time with your boss , while  together  on a journey or a visit to a customer or be together in office,what are the points that need to be remembered?

Do you think besides talking about work there wont be any other topic to discuss? What should be the limitation of your verbal expression that would not hurt him as a person or as a senior?

Is it necessary to stay just formal with him or at times you can be casual?These are the few questions that arise in mind and storm your day when you come across such a situation.

For your behavior shall decide what lies in future for you  in the organization.

Before pointing out the details let me just tell you that at the end of the day he is your boss and his place demands respect . He might be a person of great character ,a large-heated person,still it is your duty to make sure that you do not cross the line of friendliness that he has crossed for you.Being with your senior at workplace and at other casual gatherings or visits commands different approach to him.

Few points which you need to remember:

1. Your boss is a person who is in a senior position than yours and you need to respect his stature.Respecting does not mean to flatter him with words nor does it mean to be a timid follower.You need to give him the facts without letting down his presence in front of others.
2. Always preinform him about any issues that has arisen which can create a problem in field or within the workplace. Before he comes to know from anybody else,if you are the person who confides in him about any such trouble,he will be rest assured of your sincerity and faith towards him and company.
3. On certain issues you both may or may not agree completely,in such a situation make sure you don’t directly argue with  him in front of others specially his seniors.That sets a very bad example of bad leadership,which could affect his presence in the company.
4. For any reason if you are convinced for any step to be taken or not,confide in him,prior to the meeting apprehending that a conflict there in front of everyone shall damage his position.
5. As a senior , listen to his words with utmost attention and importance even though you feel they aren’t of any use.
6. While conversing with him,erase the mindset of your psyche that you are better than him and could have done everything more efficiently.Such a thought shall always hamper your growth in life for it increases the ego of your self.
7. Learn whatever you can from him by observing and by communicating. An inquisitive mind  is always progressive and your inquisitive ness to know more about the activities in the organization about work or anything else shall create a positive impression of yours.Posing to be curious hardly sustains, for you lose interest the moment you start knowing about it.
8. Be friendly towards your senior when he is in a light mood,but never try to act over smart or cross the friendly line between .
9. Assure him always of your work and results ,so that he develops a sense of belief in you as a person,which shall always be helpful for the company’s growth as well as you as an individual.
10. Restrict yourself from the petty activities and the politics of narrow-minded people.Someday the tables turn and one who starts all such trivial topic suffers.Neither such a person gets any sympathy from anyone then nor can he acquire back his same earlier position of respect and power.

All these points are essential for you when you think of your code of conduct before your seniors,but imposing them without actually realizing their importance would be forceful.

Few things below would clarify your such disposition:

1. If you respect a person ,it will not reduce your status.
2. Being humble ,doesn’t mean being weak,in fact it means you have more endurance to sustain.
3. Following your leader is not a way of flattering,it displays the sense of faith you have in him and your work.
4. Helping your boss in any other work,besides being in office does not mean you are being  exploited,it says you are trusted more than anyone else.
5. Avoiding your boss is not a way out for any situation,it shows your lack of interest in him and being in his company.
6. Arrogance lets everyone down whether he is a senior or you.
7. Arguing in form of a discussion is always welcome,but remember at the end of the day ,your leader’s point will be accepted,so it is better to convince him first if you are very sure of your own explanation.Such confiding will reflect your interest in the growth of the organization and not only in your own.
8. Besides everything,if you find anything illegal or nefarious activities going on in the organization and your seniors involved in it,rather quit the job than making them realize their follies.
9. If for any reason your senior is taking advantage of you physically,mentally or emotionally,be firm and refuse uprightly.If still unheeded directly approach the senior most person of the organization without hesitation.
10. Code of conduct applies to everyone and hence there should also be a set of codes for the leaders too.

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